I think both can work, but is it good? We should be expected to trust someone based ONLY on the truth and not what they've done in the past. They may have been forgiven for the wrong they've done or made a vow to themselves to not lie anymore and are doing a great job at changing. We can only expect the truth from someone until that trust is broken, then we have free rights to not expect anything more or less from them until they either apologize for lying or we just get so sick of the lies that we let go of them. But then, when they've lied you get the building up the trust again when they've apologized; and thats not very good. (Depending on the lie, I guess.)
You can also trust someone without expecting anything from them too, right? Only expecting them to tell the truth? And having faith and hoping they will always tell you the truth for you to trust them? Its harder for someone to trust someone if they've continuously lied to you, especially if you KNOW they are lying to you and they completely deny it. You shouldn't be expected to go on trusting someone who obviously cannot be trusted.
I think trust and expectations, go hand in hand. You in more ways have to expect someone to be trusted in order to trust what is expected of them, which is to tell you the truth. Confusing, I know. But these are my thoughts tonight.
Goodnight world!
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trust is definitely something you need. If you don't have that in a relationship with anyone then you will constantly question expectations. The stress that comes with waiting for expectations is not worth it. So continuely work on building trust with everyone. It starts with yourself and others may follow :) MUAH
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